relationships: at what cost

i think life gets the best of us. i think humans replace passion with feelings of inadequacy and lash out in violent destructive ways towards the people they love the most. It's a strange, unfortunate irony that we should stop participating in. the effects are potentially catastrophic. relationships are often permanently severed due to emotional outburst of pain, and insecurity. sometimes these feelings aren't just for a moment. we can remain offend and mad for days, weeks, and years, because we never stop to think....is this worth it, or what have I done wrong. we can't live perfect lives and we can't waste time staying mad at other people when they make mistakes. love through the pain. i think that's a form of self sacrifice and unconditional love that we often don't employ because it is perhaps the hardest form. relationships with people are the most important thing a human can posses, and losing out on them because someone hurt our feelings when they were weak is not worth it. in our moments of weakness when we lash out at other people, who much would we appreciate someone to love us through that and take the brunt of our anger without every trying to fight back, without ever trying to defend themselves? we need to learn how to do that for other people. the relationship is worth it, i promise.
j.hakim